Seduction is all about confidence, whether its in approaching a man or a woman, in swaying a business deal your way or general interaction with people.

It’s the ability to get people hooked on you and making them bend to your will. I know it sounds dark but seduction has been weaved into the fabric of existence since the beginning of time.

Seduction is a trait that exists among other species, not just humans. Various animals have their own love languages and use seductive tactics during mating periods.

In society, the only examples of seduction we are shown are often the ones used for evil purposes and this has created a moral dilemma, is seduction a good thing or a bad thing!

In this article I aim to paint the picture in a unique way.

I believe seduction is a necessity in life, its how you can sway negotiations in business your way, its how you can get people to see you, its how you can build an interesting love relationship and its how you can guarantee success in both personal and the business life.

Ill break down different aspects necessary to the act of seduction

Confidence is the key ingredient in every area of life.

 When choosing leaders during elections, we vote based on the confidence of that person and the confidence you have that the person you’ve chosen will deliver.

When buying anything from electronics to cars and so on, we rely on the brands confidence that they offer the best in comparison to the latter.

When picking a partner their confidence is a reassurance that he/she is self-knowing and this is a suttle que that gets you to want to be associated with him/her.

Confidence creates a mirror effect, its more likely the other person will agree with your point of view or be drawn to you

Presentation comes at a close second.

How you dress up, how you groom yourself, what type of car you drive, what type of phone you have, where you live, looking fit, where you hang out and so on creates your social narrative. What you do for a living, your financial position and associations further cements the level of respect and adoration society will show you.

In simple terms, perception is reality. If you are confident and know how to present yourself in different scenarios, the easier it is to connect to people and gain the upper hand.

 These two are non-verbal ques, they are simply a way about you, from your body language to your wellness.

The third thing is how you drive conversations

Introduction

Introduce yourself in a simple appealing way, be warm and open. This allows the other person to want to reciprocate in a similar way. Be charming and positive, compliment the scenery, be observant and point out something about them that you like. The goal is to make the other party feel comfortable around you.

Go with the flow

When having a conversation at the start, read the room. If they are chatty, it gets easier to make them talk about themselves, if they are reserved lead the conversations. Don’t reveal too much when talking about yourself, always leave room for imagination. Often find ways to redirect the conversation and make them talk about themselves, everyone’s favorite topic is them.

A game of push and pull

Think of conversations as a dance with a partner, it has to feel complimentary. Its all about a give and a take. Give certain information about yourself in a way that builds interest and admiration. Appear to be larger than life, your interests, travel adventures, your victories. Only talk about yourself in away that elevates you in their mind. This is pushing.

Now the table is set for pulling, get them to talk about themselves again, this time they will converse in a way to show you they want to be affiliated and associated. Get to know their likes and dislikes and pay attention to details. Maintain good body language and eye contact and let them pour themselves out. Often, they will want to satisfy their curiosity and will ask personal questions, keep it light and humorous leaving room for more.

This occurrence doesn’t have to be a day’s thing, its something to be done with every interaction, its about keeping things interesting.

Showing appreciation/be generous

Do memorable things for them, buying them a gift, paying for their cab, footing the bill on dates, setting up something that’s beneficial to them at your expense. This gets the other person to feel like they owe you. In order to receive you have to give, do this in a natural way, don’t force or have unnecessary expectations. Giving should be a way about you. A con can be spotted by a self-aware person

The Ask

At this stage you already know the other party is invested in the interaction and in the back of their mind they also want to come through for you as you have for them. Reciprocation is the game, because of how you treat them, they desire to treat you the same. Whatever you ask within reason they are more likely to give you. Life is about transactions, a give and take. Any healthy relationship or transaction is about exchange.

As you can see, seduction is merely a tool to getting the quality life you want. I’d advise you use these tactics with a sense of reason and care, there is a fine line between using it for good or bad and the consequences that follow.

In summary

Confidence is key

Presentation

Introduction

Go with the flow

A game of push and pull

Showing appreciation/be generous

The ask

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